Sharing love, and the chores
There is no conflict of views about who will do what in doing household chores 24/7 throughout a year – one may say, year after year as long as the marital union lasts or "death do us part".
Where is the problem in running a house when the husband and wife are both working outdoors or in offices away from home?
Well, no problem when the marital life is run by mutual LOVE and both are keen to do not only his or her bit but a little more. So far so good.
A BABY IS BORN
The main aim of tying the knot is to have children who carry forward whatever the husband and wife inherited from their parents or grandparents. The ancestral heritage, culture, religion and other social traditions have to be handed over to the new generation. The baton must be passed on. Fine.
So, have sons and daughters. At least have one or two.
The baby is born. The household responsibilities increase by leaps and bounds. Both have to keep awake by turns at night to take care of baby's needs. Nappies have to be changed every now and then.
The winter months are particularly hard on wet nappies when frequency of change increases. Obviously both the husband and the wife have to do it by turns, as none can say that the office work is killing by day, the nappy work by night.
Parents love the progeny; so no cursing and no abusive words to be used.
Pent up emotions and back breaking household chores, absence of domestic help, grandparents chose to be away on pilgrimage, patience reaches the last limit.
Either the husband or the wife snaps up. Curse words are not far behind. In some cases, the new arrival in the house who gave immense joy initially, is now the main cause of discord.
WAY OUT
One may take some leave from office by turns and relax a little.
In the Vedic wedding among the Hindus wherever they may be, the seven vows taken while going round the Havan fire, the most important is: we are now friends. Share the joys and sorrows of life. Beget children and shape them as Human Beings.
When the husband and wife recall these vows and think coolly, anger disappears. Peace returns. LOVE of the two for each other plays a major role in shaping the life of the couple in future. Above all, it is the new-born baby who is looked after by both the parents.
Thus the Baton is passed on. The life is smooth sailing once again. Is it a Utopia that I have just described or is it a page out of a fairy tale where the prince charming always marries the lady-love and they live happily everafter.
No, not at all. It is a life to be lived in this mundane world where every husband every wife faces hard realities of life. It is the steely nerves that one develops over a period of time and it is the Ved Mantras that one meditates on that make life smoother.
It is the recall of vows taken while going around the Havan fire that make the couple’s determination stronger than ever before.
The wedding vows are recited again in your own mind and both the husband and the wife are determined more than ever before to make the marriage work after arrival of a baby.
The baby is the most loved one and it is for the proper upbringing of the baby that the couple has to live and strive for making life of the progeny as happy as happy can be.
There is no conflict of views about who will do what in doing household chores 24/7 throughout a year – one may say, year after year as long as the marital union lasts or "death do us part". Where is the problem in running a house when the husband and wife are both working outdoors or in offices...
There is no conflict of views about who will do what in doing household chores 24/7 throughout a year – one may say, year after year as long as the marital union lasts or "death do us part".
Where is the problem in running a house when the husband and wife are both working outdoors or in offices away from home?
Well, no problem when the marital life is run by mutual LOVE and both are keen to do not only his or her bit but a little more. So far so good.
A BABY IS BORN
The main aim of tying the knot is to have children who carry forward whatever the husband and wife inherited from their parents or grandparents. The ancestral heritage, culture, religion and other social traditions have to be handed over to the new generation. The baton must be passed on. Fine.
So, have sons and daughters. At least have one or two.
The baby is born. The household responsibilities increase by leaps and bounds. Both have to keep awake by turns at night to take care of baby's needs. Nappies have to be changed every now and then.
The winter months are particularly hard on wet nappies when frequency of change increases. Obviously both the husband and the wife have to do it by turns, as none can say that the office work is killing by day, the nappy work by night.
Parents love the progeny; so no cursing and no abusive words to be used.
Pent up emotions and back breaking household chores, absence of domestic help, grandparents chose to be away on pilgrimage, patience reaches the last limit.
Either the husband or the wife snaps up. Curse words are not far behind. In some cases, the new arrival in the house who gave immense joy initially, is now the main cause of discord.
WAY OUT
One may take some leave from office by turns and relax a little.
In the Vedic wedding among the Hindus wherever they may be, the seven vows taken while going round the Havan fire, the most important is: we are now friends. Share the joys and sorrows of life. Beget children and shape them as Human Beings.
When the husband and wife recall these vows and think coolly, anger disappears. Peace returns. LOVE of the two for each other plays a major role in shaping the life of the couple in future. Above all, it is the new-born baby who is looked after by both the parents.
Thus the Baton is passed on. The life is smooth sailing once again. Is it a Utopia that I have just described or is it a page out of a fairy tale where the prince charming always marries the lady-love and they live happily everafter.
No, not at all. It is a life to be lived in this mundane world where every husband every wife faces hard realities of life. It is the steely nerves that one develops over a period of time and it is the Ved Mantras that one meditates on that make life smoother.
It is the recall of vows taken while going around the Havan fire that make the couple’s determination stronger than ever before.
The wedding vows are recited again in your own mind and both the husband and the wife are determined more than ever before to make the marriage work after arrival of a baby.
The baby is the most loved one and it is for the proper upbringing of the baby that the couple has to live and strive for making life of the progeny as happy as happy can be.
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